What can you do to move from ‘stuck’ to ‘I’m ok’.

I can remember the time before I found my way forward, when my head ran so fast and full that there was no space to just ‘be’. (Of course I was running a ‘grief loop’ but that’s another story).

In any moment, you have a choice to make a change - and yes at times that really, really feels insurmountable. Remember though, if you can get into ‘that’ place - you can get out of it. Just fill it with useful stuff! Here are some suggestions.

STOP whatever you are doing and pause for a moment

Say - ‘wait’ or ‘stop’ or ‘hold up’ or whatever you like

Look up

Drop your shoulders

Take a step forward

See a bird, a picture, a smiling face, a photo…….

Say a kind thought to yourself. Imagine it’s your older, wiser you talking - ‘You got this’, ‘I’m with you’ ‘Let’s do this’..

Do something differently - one thing - anything- in this very moment (sing a song, put the radio on, take a shower and lower the temperature slowly, take your shoes off and walk on grass (feels great), text a friend, tidy a place, make the bed, put something different on, pick a vegetable (if you have a garden plot of course) or go down to the market and buy real food, watch something funny, dance, look at a photo that makes you smile.

Pause and take yourself back to a time when you were calm or energised or confident or happy. Just be in that very moment. What do you feel and see and hear??

See your future you. Take a moment to imagine the future you - living as you would like to be.

There are so many more ideas and these are a few to get you started. You may like to suggest your own ideas.

Enjoy shaking up your neurology.

Jenny xx

My husband and I were discussing today about how we went off for a holiday overseas together - back before LP days - even though we knew that Evangeline was chronically ill with CFS/ME (and everything that went with that). We had hired a nanny to look after her and live in at our home.

Guilty? Well, at the time - and as we were told from her Doctors - we genuinely thought that she/we would be living with this forever. As you may know, parents live the journey too, a heartbreaking, helpless rollercoaster.

So, we went away.

Looking back, and that’s not always useful to do at all, we gained clarity and perspective. While away, I decided to leave my full-time teaching job and look after Evangeline myself. I would look for the answer to ‘fix’ her. I did and we have never looked back.

Sometimes it’s useful to get away - to look at your situation from a different lens. To actually rebuild yourself and your relationships, in order to ‘run the race’, coming back refreshed and renewed to keep going. The answer, the solution, is always there. It needs space to appear.

Guilty? No. We’ve let that go and more accurately, we’ve let BE. When we let be with compassion, self kindness and softness, memories and decisions come and go in their own way.

Find and hold some space for yourself.

Jenny xx